Seems this is a recurring theme, especially for women. But I think men “want it all” too. As I understand it the issue is that folks want a great career, great family and success in general. That seems like a good goal for everyone.
The problem is in finding a way to get there. I don’t want to get in to women’s issues as I don’t understand them. The issues or women!
But I do have some thoughts about this. My thoughts come from some AA meeting I have attended several years ago. One of the common stories is about how strong control issues affected the members. Trying to control everything (not just alcohol or drugs) put them into a position of potential failure as they found they couldn’t control much at all. None of us can!
The result of this often led to selfishness that brought broken relationships, lack of self esteem and using drugs or alcohol to medicate their problems. They discovered that what they really wanted was happiness or serenity as they call it in AA.
This doesn’t mean we can’t compete and seek success in all areas of our lives if that is what we want. But we need to guard against pitfalls becoming so entrenched in our goal that we become focused only on us and our goals. Careers, marriages, families and friends have little room for selfish behavior.
I believe that obsession with self defining goals can actually work against those goals!
Just something to think about. If you disagree feel free to comment!