Have we gone too far with personal responsibility? I don’t think so but wonder if the concept works against us sometimes?
I’m talking about asking for help when we have a problem. I posted a piece on “The King’s Speech” movie a few months ago marveling that the King of England actually asked for help with his stammering. Even the most powerful person in England asked for help!
Personal responsibility to me means that we seek help to solve our problems as well as owning them. There is a ton of help around that is available to all, much of it for free.
AA is probably the best known, but job transition and grief support groups have been around for a long time too. Many churches offer programs for finance and other life problems that are well attended. Most for free or a very nominal price.
I think the biggest issue in asking for help is the control mentality. We think we need to control many things that we really can’t control; then the anger and frustration enters in and we act out, either in protests or pity parties. The latter is unhealthy and protesting doesn’t solve many of our own problems. It is more venting than anything, but may not make us feel better after venting.
One has to be open to change when asking for help. Most of us really want someone to agree with us that we are victims and enable us to continue our frustration. Most of the time we need to change our behavior which we have a tough time admitting.
There is lots of help out there; I have trouble feeling sorry for victims!