A friend of mine used to say “a man gets his biggest raise when the dog dies and the kids leave home!” In my case he was right as evidenced by my kids asking why I didn’t finish the basement rec room when they were home. Easy answer: I couldn’t afford it then! But I did get another dog so threw the rest down the drain!
Many are disturbed about reports that show that some welfare recipients are better off with welfare and food stamps etc. than they would be with a $60,000 job. So why work? They can’t get a job like with that with their skills anyway. Studies show it is getting worse too; more and more people are on assistance of some kind.
The common response many of us have is that we work to make a living and provide for our families and that that brings us self-esteem. I agree, but it may not be enough to motivate folks to think about it.
But one thing missing for the welfare crowd is that they will not get the big raise when their kids leave home! They may get a big paycut!
As I understand it most of the welfare programs are tied to how many children one has and support goes up for each child they have. Yes, I understand why they may need help and am not saying we shouldn’t help them. But the point they may be missing is that their income will go down when the kids leave; not much future for them! Worse yet, they will lack the skills and understanding of work to go out and get a job to support themselves when this happens. Or, if the country really does go broke, these support systems may go away and they will be in trouble right now.
So what do we do? I think the solution is in education. Schools need to teach kids about money, how to earn it and what to do with it. Classes on jobs, networking to get them, education required to get them, and how to succeed in them must be instilled in them early to break this pattern. Some say there are no jobs, so why try? But many are getting jobs using skills like networking, competing and developing early work habits that give them some skills to start with. I have written about some of these in another post: Success Stories
I also think we who have had careers or are in them currently can offer a lot of help. We can volunteer to speak to high school classes and witness how we got where we are today. I have done a bit of this and the kids are very receptive. Many others do too.
I have just volunteered to teach a class on these issues for a charity that sponsors a class for schools in this area. I think their focus is in the inner city where it may be needed the most; but the only place it is needed. I hope I am accepted and get the chance to help. There are probably more opportunities like this if you look for them. Oh, you don’t need to be “Bill Gates” to do it either! Average guys like me can show it is possible to make it too.
So while I believe in helping people in need, I really believe that help “up” is the solution. Then they may get a raise when their kids leave home too!