Now, this is may be an unpopular idea but I am going to test the theory by posting my thoughts here. My purpose is to get people thinking, not create a debate, or offend anyone.
The driver for my thoughts comes from watching the Occupy Wall Street protests. I will not claim that they are all wrong with their assertions, but I will say that I see a lot of unhappy people and that bothers me. Maybe they can be effective, I don’t know but I am not sure that what they seem to be asking for is going to solve their problems.
I do see some characteristics in this movement that I also see in AA meetings and that is why I ask if victimhood is an addiction like alcohol, drugs, overeaters and other addictions.
- Some seem to enjoy the escape being a victim brings
- They seem to think they can control other peoples’ behavior.
- They selectively blame others for their problems, some may be justified but there is plenty of blame to go around if you look for it
- They don’t take responsibility for their problems
- They don’t seem to rely on a higher power to help themselves
- They are so bitter about other people that it is affecting their lives
- They are focused on what they should get rather than what they have to give others
- They are protesting greed but not seeing their own which we all have
- They lack serenity, much of it brought on by their own behaviors
- They appear unwilling to ask for help instead of handouts (enablers)
- Based on their premise, we should all be victims, but we aren’t
- What they seem to want would be insatiable, hence perpetual victimhood
- Punishing someone else will not help us
This is not to criticize these folks, they have every right to protest if they want, that is their right. However, I would like to see them “make it” as best they can and find some joy and positive thinking in their lives. I often wonder, how do some make it and others don’t? I feel sorry for these frustrated people.
My parents raised me to work hard and make a living, not envy others who have it better, and help those who have less. I am not rich but am thankful for what I have
and try to help others as much as I can.